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Subject:Hmmm..
Time:11:22 pm
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Well, I'm new to this community, but I need some advice about a possible/developing online relationship...


Just so you have a little bit of background information about me, my name is Sarah, and I'm a sophomore in college. My major is English, and I'm currently learning Japanese and Korean because I want to teach English in Japan and possibly live in Korea one day.

Anyway, enough about me. On to the part I need help with.
Since my college does not offer courses in Korean, one day I decided that I need a Korean penpal. So I went to the Rosetta Stone sharedtalk website to find one, and I found.. many heheh.
One I grew particularly fond of was a 21-year-old boy, and we talked for about two months via MSN and then talked for a few months using Skype voice chat [it's pretty much like talking on the phone] and eventually we exchanged phone numbers and started talking that way. We sent pictures of ourselves to each other, and I know for a fact that he's legit cause I've talked to his family members, too. I started crushing on him because he's extremely good-looking, very smart, and an all-around great guy, but I never told him because I didn't think it could ever work out.

Here's the predicament. He just joined the army about two weeks ago. Because he's not allowed to use the internet or his cell phone during basic training, we can't talk to each other for three whole months.

And on the last day we talked to each other, he finally confessed that he loved me. He even went so far as to say he would marry me one day...
Now, it drives me crazy not being able to talk to him. He'll be in the army for two years, so we won't be able to meet in person all that time, but he wants me to wait for him, to keep him as an option. Around the time he gets out of the army, I'll be graduating and moving to Japan, so it would really work out for us to date then because we'll be living so close to each other.

I'm so confused as to what to do. Should I keep liking him? Is it too early to tell if this can work out?
Please help me!!

If you've read this far, THANK YOU.
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ladylynx
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Time:2009-03-22 04:49 am (UTC)
I don't know what to tell you. These are the kinds of concerns I have as well. The other day, I was thinking about working towards having the requirements to join the FBI. If I wound up with that type of job, I couldn't work outside America. LOL. But then I remembered my boyfriend lives in Ecuador and what he's working towards would keep him there for a long time too.
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khlela
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Time:2009-03-22 06:44 pm (UTC)
In my opinion i think you can definately keep him an option. If you truly care for him you can of course keep thinking of him. It sounds like you have 2 years, that's a long time. I would write each other via snail mail as much as you can. See how things go. I wouldn't force yourself to be commited though unless it's what feels right for you. IF you find someone else in that time period you shouldn't feel guilty for exploring it. Keep persuing your dream and it's highly possible that things will turn out just as you would like. I wish you the best of luck, keep us updated and welcome to the community.
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1amongthelost
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Time:2009-06-22 06:13 am (UTC)
Are you able to write to him? Snail Mail can be very romantic and can help hold you together through the long three months.
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rgrthat
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Time:2010-06-16 05:42 pm (UTC)
I was in the Army. You can write. They still do get phone calls (and they're only about 5 minutes) but they have to earn them as a platoon. Usually people use that time to call their parents or family back home or girlfriends/boyfriends/spouses.

It's too soon for you to tell if it can work out in my opinion. This is a massive change in his life and most Soldiers are not in a position to be able to know what they want until they've been in for a little while to understand their place in their new world.
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